SACRED INTIMATE FOR QUEER & TRANS FOLKS
Somaros
An identity-affirming space to come home to yourself.
If you live inside a body the world has tried to define for you, you are not alone. This is a space to soften shame, strengthen boundaries, and reconnect with your aliveness and wholeness—all at the pace of trust.
What is Somaros?
For me, this work is the natural culmination of lived experience, training, intuitive wisdom, and a soul-deep calling.
Somaros is the name of my practice as a Sacred Intimate.
Rooted in the fusion of soma, the living, feeling body experienced from within, and eros, the creative, life-giving force of love and pleasure, sacred intimate work is a “reclamation modality” to come back to the divine unity of body and soul.
Through immersive embodiment, you’re invited to slow down, breathe deeply, attune to your body, and come back into alignment with your whole self. Touch becomes a prayer, pleasure becomes permission, and connection becomes medicine.
The container is sacred. It is gently paced, trauma-informed, and held with reverence. I am here to walk alongside you and invite you deeper into your own truth.
Gentle invitation: Let’s feel into what’s true for you.
SACRED INTIMATE FOR QUEER & TRANS FOLKS
Somaros
An identity-affirming space to come home to yourself.
If you live inside a body the world has tried to define for you, you are not alone. This is a space to soften shame, strengthen boundaries, and reconnect with your aliveness and wholeness—at the pace of trust.
What I Believe
This work is an evolving paradigm of sacred intimacy that goes beyond holding space for vulnerability and depth. Working consciously with divine energy as a healing, ecstatic, spiritual force, I hold the following beliefs:
- Sexual energy is life force energy
- Eros can be a gateway to transformation
- The body is an altar
- Intimacy is prayer, ritual, and devotion
- Pleasure is a sacred language
Through a trauma-aware lens, I walk alongside queer, trans/nonbinary clients as they:
- Reconnect to their embodied truth, gently and without agenda
- Reclaim sexuality as something sacred, not shameful
- Work consciously with life force energy to heal, integrate, and expand consciousness
- Surrender into the healing power of pleasure
- Learn to navigate profound emotional, energetic, and spiritual exchanges with clarity, consent, and care
“You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves…”
— MARY OLIVER, From Wild Geese
We begin with intention-setting and clear agreements. We move slowly and collaboratively, with consent, choice, and nervous system safety at the center.
Every session is shaped by your needs, your boundaries, and your “yes/no/not yet.” Clothing and touch are by agreement. You can pause, slow down, ask questions, change direction, or stop at any time.
Sessions may include:
- Grounding and nervous system support
- Somatic awareness practices, including tracking sensation, breath, emotion, and impulse
- Consent and boundary coaching, including language for choice and voice
- Therapeutic touch, scar softening, educational genital mapping, and/or pleasure mapping
- Ritual, affirmation, energetic movement
- Integration practices you can bring into daily life
Our collaboration evolves into a living, breathing laboratory where you are met and can heal, receive, expand, and express yourself.
If your body is curious, if something in you is asking for a different relationship with intimacy, or if you are simply tired of carrying shame or discomfort that was never yours, you are welcome here.
What This Work Can Offer Queer, Trans & Nonbinary Clients…
This work is held through a lens of wholeness. We move at the speed of trust, with consent and dignity leading the way. You are worthy of care that honors your identity, your boundaries, and your pace.
Below are a few key ways this support may show up in practice:
Identity-affirming care
This work celebrates your birthright to feel at home in yourself and to explore what wholeness means to you. We have reverence for your lived experience, and we work with your relationship to your body exactly as it is. Together, we collaborate in ways that feel safe, empowering, and deeply aligned with your own knowing.
Embracing sexuality and embodiment
Sacred intimate work creates space to explore the life-affirming flow of energy within you, and to reconnect with your own body and desires in ways that feel clear, respectful, and true.
Touch after gender-affirming surgery
If you’re healing from surgery, we move with tenderness and medical clarity. I bring firsthand experience with medical congruence and scar care practices. With your surgical team’s guidance and clearance, this work can support gentle reconnection with sensation, including nervous system support, paced touch exploration, and/or scar desensitization or softening, as needed.
Dissolving shame
Many queer and trans people carry shame that was never ours. This work supports the slow reclamation of pleasure and the gentle dissolving of shame, especially when it has been amplified by society, stigma, or harmful messaging.
Spiritual and emotional support
This work naturally creates sacred space for grief, rage, terror, joy, integration, and healing. You are supported in reconnecting with inner child, your higher Self, and the deepest truth of who you are—all through embodied presence and emotional care.
I share pricing here because transparency is part of consent and safety.
First step
- 30-minute consult: $50 (via Calendly; This is applied to your 3-session arc should we move forward together.)
In-person sessions
- 3-session arc: $750/session (3 hours each)
- Ongoing work: $600/session (3 hours each; available to clients after a 3-session arc)
Virtual sessions
- Post-session integration: $250/session (1 hour each, via Zoom)
Intensives
- Multi-day immersives: Custom pricing and locations available (5 hours per day over 2 or 3 days)
Sliding scale
A sliding fee scale is available for BIPOC, queer, trans, and nonbinary clients. If cost is a barrier, simply note that in your intake, and we will discuss options with care.
How do you hold the container in sessions?
What does a session look like?
Each session is shaped by what you need and what we agree to together. We begin with intention-setting and agreements, then move at the pace of trust. Sessions may include grounding, nervous system support, somatic awareness practices, consent and boundary coaching (including language for choice and voice), therapeutic touch, scar remediation, or integration practices.
Do you offer online and in-person options?
Is this work trauma-informed?
Yes. Consent, pacing, and nervous system safety are foundational. Part of my training is as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach and with Somatic Experiencing® International (a three-year trauma certification program).
Is this therapy?
How have you trained to do this work?
My trainings, coursework, and in-person intensives have been in the fields of trauma, trauma-informed coaching, gender advocacy and medical congruence, scar massage, platonic intimacy, somatic emotional release, somatic sex education, sacred intimacy, genital dearmoring, and energy work. My practice is an ongoing study with the following:
- Ongoing Supervision / Mentorship with Christiane Pelmas
- The 3 Keys to Genital Dearmouring with Rahi Chun (2027)
- Sacred Intimacy Fundamentals I: Agreements, Boundaries & Eros, Body Electric
- Sacred Intimacy Fundamentals II: Guiding Clients, Body Electric
- Unwinding Whiteness for Healing Practitioners, with Katherine Yeagel & Mikai’el Jade
- Somatic Sex Educator Professional, Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education
- Foundations of Sacred Intimacy, Body Electric
- Student of Somatic Experiencing®, Somatic Experiencing® International
- Training in the Art of Loving, Shalom Mountain
- Gender Advocate Training, Transgender Advocacy & Care Team (TACT)
- Transference and Counter-transference, The Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies
- Exploring Ways to Support Survivors of Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence, SickKids Centre for Community Mental Health Learning Institute
- Certified Cuddlist® Practitioner, Cuddlist
- Certified Trauma-Informed Coach, Moving the Human Spirit (ICF Accredited)
- Certified Reiki Master
- B.S., St. Thomas Aquinas College
Do I have to talk about my story?
What if I freeze or don’t know what I want?
What if I feel uncomfortable in my body?
You do not have to push past discomfort here. We work gently with what is true, and we build capacity over time through choice, voice, and steady self-trust.
What’s the difference between a surrogate partner and a sacred intimate?
Surrogate partner therapy typically treats sexual disorders or dysfunctions through structured, goal-oriented sessions, often in collaboration with a licensed psychologist or sex therapist.
Sacred intimate work often focuses on helping a client to embrace their body and reclaim pleasure more holistically through breath, voice, consensual therapeutic touch, scar remediation, ritual, and presence.
If you’re curious about what this work includes, or if it might be a fit, the Somaros Intake is a gentle first step. It helps me understand what you’re seeking so I can respond with clarity and care.
What’s the difference between cuddle therapy and sacred intimacy work?
While both are rooted in consent and boundaries, cuddle therapy is a strictly platonic container where the practitioner and client remain clothed at all times, and no genital touch nor arousal is encouraged. Cuddle therapy is often utilized for touch starvation, anxiety, nervous system co-regulation, and beginning to develop trust with oneself and another human—sometimes offered in a triadic model where the practitioner and the client’s therapist work together, if requested by the client.
Sacred intimate work often focuses on helping a client to embrace their body and reclaim pleasure more holistically through breath, voice, consensual therapeutic touch, scar remediation, ritual, and presence.
If you’re curious about what this work includes, or if it might be a fit, the Somaros Intake is a gentle first step. It helps me understand what you’re seeking so I can respond with clarity and care.
Can you say more about your somatic sex educator training?
Somatic sex education liberates clients into the fullest erotic expression of themselves, and a heart-opening way of being in the world. In other words, it co-creates a remembering that the body is a channel for vitality, pleasure, and divinity.
From the perspective of The Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, where I train, the modality itself is comprehensive—not only because it encompasses a range of core competencies and tools, but also because it’s rooted in the understanding that genitals, sex, gender identity, sexual identity, and relationships exist as an ever-evolving, overlapping spectrum.
Personal Note: Finding out that somatic sex education has its roots in queer community was deeply moving for me as a trans-nonbinary, queer person. It felt even more affirming that this was always meant to be my path of contribution and service in the world.
Do you engage in regular STI testing?
Yes. I test regularly, typically every 3 to 6 months, with clear results to-date. I’m also happy to talk through safer practices, boundaries, and any health-related questions during our consultation so you can make an informed decision about what feels exactly right for you.
What if I develop feelings for you through our work together?
Attachment can arise in healing spaces. If it happens, we will meet it with care, boundaries, and clarity. Your feelings are not a failure. They are information, and we can work with them responsibly.
Why do you love this work?
I actually never imagined doing this work. I resisted stepping forward when I was called.
Now, I can see clearly that I needed to work through more of my own shame, judgment, social conditioning and illusion—and meet the young parts of myself that were strategically hidden under my comfort level with sexuality. It was only then that I could step into this work in full integrity.
I love this work because it has changed me. It has been a teacher, an opening to spiritual guidance, and a lover able to meet me in my depth and intensity. I have come to see that being chosen for the role of a Sacred Intimate isn’t special (ego), but it is sacred (holy). As a result, the presence and reverence I bring to my clients are devotional.
A Personal Share
The most profound experience I have had—as a client—allowed me to experience the height of pleasure and the intensity of young terror simultaneously. It was the “healing power of pleasure” (the 7th principle in Tantra) that enabled me to access what I could not touch for 30 years.
That was a pivotal moment in my journey, and during the integration period that followed that session, I could sense a much greater opening into my own power—soft, strong, and rooted. I gained access to deeper pleasure and higher consciousness, which will continue to unfold throughout this life. And, most importantly, my soul made a lifelong commitment to walk alongside others who desire to be met in these places—to experience the ecstasy of feeling whole and alive.
I love this work because it allows me to be of service while in the fullest expression of my being.
If you’d like to explore further, click below…
Start with the Somaros Intake. I will review what you share and reach out with next steps. If it feels like a fit, we will schedule a consultation and co-create a path forward together.
Disclaimer
Money exchanged for sessions is for companionship and coaching services only. Nothing else is ever offered nor implied. Anything that may or may not occur is a matter of personal choice and personal preference between two or more consenting adults of legal age and is not contracted for, nor is it requested to be contracted for in any manner. No fees will ever be accepted for illegal activity. Services discussed herein do not in any way include or relate to either: (1) engagement in any lewd act for money or other consideration, or (2) Solicitation, offer, or agreement to engage in any lewd act for money or other consideration.
Trauma, Liberation & Communion
I also share the evolution of my sacred intimate work, and the truth of who I am: a soul in an imperfect expression of gender, sexuality, and non-hierarchical relationships.